At first this coming year felt shameful, daunting . . . I didn't want to acknowledge it had been ten years. How far have I come? Have I even arrived yet? My thoughts were achievement oriented, centered around what I have accomplished. (Yeah, I can say I'm a college instructor now, wrote and published a book, raised three amazing boys, helping people, yada yada yada). But later I realized that who I am today is much more important than my achievements. It truly has been the journey that matters most.
These next two months mark a powerful transition for me, ten years ago.The beginning of healing from a broken marriage/family and the birth of my third amazing son.
. . And the re-birth of me!
Talk about crisis and opportunity rolled into one! The crisis obviously being my divorce and my opportunity coming from my bright and shiny star-of-a-son, Trevor. He gave me the ability to feel joy again, even whilst in the midst of crisis.
Two months after he was born, I was faced with the fact that my husband was a stranger living a private life. After the shock, I began my grieving process. My will to succeed in this situation is what propelled me forward. I was determined to come out a Victor of this crisis.
Somehow I knew I would be teaching others how to do the same one day. Those gut wrenching emotions; that dreadful lonely feeling of separation, and the memory replay of what used to be; all needed to be managed, processed and resolved. Those were huge tasks to do as I did my best playing my first role as “single mom” of a newborn, and two others little boys . . . !
And I have no regrets as I look back at that time in my life, because I have transformed into the person I am now: Super strong on the inside, totally connected to my heart and soul, and completely reverent in living my truth.
These are things I was not ten years ago, and prior to (during my marriage).
So what I would like to pass on to you today, is that your crisis is your best teacher. The person behind the crisis – the one whom you feel victimized by - is your best teacher. Yes, that’s right: we are the students. Learning great lessons from these people. Lessons we could not have learned otherwise. That is the absolute truth.
I know this is a really difficult one to get. If you are like me, you have based years of your life on the belief that that person has caused you great harm. That is why I wanted to let you know that I am here for you. I’m here to help you make this gigantic shift. I’m here to guide your desire to flip it upside down and turn over a new leaf about it all. If I can do it, you can do it.
I can honestly say that I can "see" my Ex for who he is TODAY because he no longer carries the heavy burden I placed on him (perpetrator of hurt). I can "see" him without the grips of our past. I can smile at him and initiate meaningful conversation. And he can return my smile and engage with me.
But only because I thanked him. I feel grateful for all those lessons he taught me about myself. Not in person: In spirit. Inside my heart. And because of that, he can feel it. And so it is.
When you are ready to make this powerful shift that leaves you feeling totally free of the baggage (hurt). Ready to make a gigantic step that returns your amazing beautiful power back to you.
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